Friendship in Marriage

“A friend loves at all times” (Proverbs 17:17).

Having a strong friendship with your husband enables you to enjoy your relationship and to protect it from outside temptations.

One of the best ways to create friendship in a marriage is to talk to each other in the same manner as friends talk.

How do friends talk to each other?

Friends aren’t always focused on solving problems. They talk to each other just because they enjoy one another. Friends laugh together and share funny experiences. Friends share what happens to them—and how they feel about it. They know the real you. Friends are willing to listen. They do not always offer advice, but you know they care.

Building a stronger friendship with your husband may take time. Initially, you may have to be the one to start the conversations.

If he is not accustomed to talking with you, start with very short times of sharing. Don’t expect him to respond very much. This is new and you are both learning.

Choose a time when neither of you is tired. It would be good if your children were busy somewhere else.

Don’t just talk about problems. Focus on things that interest you both. Listen carefully to anything he may say.

Real friendship between husband and wife is possible. Conversation is a means to share your real self with another person. If husband and wife learn to share with each other and trust in each other a beautiful friendship will develop. The Bible says “a friend loves at all times.”

What a wonderful basis for marriage.

Kimberly Snider is a missionary to the Philippines.

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