Do You Form Opinions Too Fast?

“And he has given us this command: Whoever loves God must also love his brother” (1 John 4:21).

Do you tend to form opinions about people quickly? Are there people you just do not like from the very moment you meet them?

Be careful. Deciding you don’t like someone too quickly may cause you to miss out on a wonderful friendship.

There is a person I encountered many times because he often attended the same meetings I did. I watched him and heard him speak.

Do you know what? I decided I didn’t like this man.He seemed arrogant, rude, selfish and self-centered.

Not long ago, my opinion changed. I spent time with him and asked many questions about his work. Then, I asked him about Jesus, and how he came to serve the Lord.

His attitude completely changed. His eyes got soft as he told me about his boyhood. He spoke about how his father threw him out of the house when he decided to become a pastor; his years of struggle without a home. He smiled and laughed as he recounted God’s faithfulness.

As a result of this conversation, my whole opinion about this man changed. He is a wonderful Christian brother. I just needed to get to know him. The Bible cautions us to base our opinion on the truth, not what we think is the truth.

Next time you start to form a negative opinion about someone, tell yourself to get to know him or her first. There may be a wonderful new friend hiding there.

Kimberly Snider is a missionary to the Philippines.

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