“After all, children should not have to save up for their parents, but parents for their children” (2 Corinthians 12:14).
The number of children you have will be a decision you and your husband make with the help of the Lord. While you are considering this, it is wise to bear in mind the responsibilities that come with parenting. You will become providers of food, clothing, a home, education, discipline and guidance.
One more provision that is not spoken about as much is your presence. In the modern world, it is easy to get so busy earning money that you do not have any time left to spend with your children. You become so worried about providing nourishing food, allowances and clothing, you might forget your children also need you to be there for them.
Maybe your parents are also living in your home. Or you may have wonderful childcare. However, no one can take your place as your children’s mother.
As a Christian mother, God expects you to be the primary caretaker of your little ones. You should be the main one teaching them, training them and reading to them. No one can take your place.
If you do not spend enough time with your children, do not blame them if they do not behave the way you want them to. Do not blame other people if your kids are undisciplined. It is your job, and you must be faithful with it.
Perhaps it would be best for you to wait a while before becoming a parent, if you feel you are not yet ready to make those kinds of sacrifice. When you bring a child into the world, you are making a lifelong commitment.
You may need to postpone your career plans for a while. Your presence is what your child needs the most!
Kimberly Snider is a missionary to the Philippines.
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