Marital Communication Discussion Questions

<>Do these exercises in love.
<>Allow for the fact that you may have unresolved conflicts: don’t try to solve them all today.
<>Be open, honest and transparent.
<>Share the truth in love.
<>Forgive your mate for past injustices.
<>Pray before you begin.

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1. Do you think that we sit and talk often enough?
2. When we argue, how does it make you feel?
3. What are the main differences in the way we talk to each other?
4. What are the primary sources of conflict when we talk?
5. What things do I say that embarrass you the most?
6. What specific things do I say that cause conflict?
7. What trigger-words or phrases do I use that make you sad or mad?
8. What is one area of our marriage that we talk about the least?
9. What is an area of our marriage that we talk about the most?
10. How do you think our arguments affect our children?
11. Name some things you appreciate about the way I talk to you.
12. Do you think that I value your opinion? 
13. What is one thing we can do to help our communication skills?
14. Would you like to pray with me, to communicate with God, more often?
15. When I talk to you, does your mind wander?
16. Do you pretend to pay attention to me when you really aren’t?
17. How would you rate me as a listener?
18. When you know I’m really listening to you, how does it make you feel?
19. Do you think that I allow you to teach and instruct you about myself?
20. What is my greatest strength concerning listening?
21. What is my greatest weakness concerning listening?
22. What can I do to help our communication to improve?
23. If you could change one thing about me, what would it be?
24. What would I need to do to make this change happen?