A Husband’s Checklist

Rate yourself on a scale of one to five, one representing “poor” and five representing “excellent”.
 

1. _____ Really listening to her point of view
2. _____ Repairing items around the house
3. _____ Being aware of her physical limitations
4. _____ Allowing her to spend time with her friends
5. _____ Including her in conversations when you’re with others
6. _____ Telling her how much she means to you
7. _____ Demonstrating how much she means to you
8. _____ Pro-actively assisting in her spiritual growth
9. _____ Being consistent
10._____ Showing gratitude to her
11._____ Being respectful of her feelings
12._____ Being respectful of her family
13. _____Encouraging her
14._____ Keeping your promises to her
15._____ Affirming that her opinion is valuable
16._____ Setting aside special time to be with her
17._____ Showing her attention
18._____ Attending church with her
19._____ Affirming her as an intellectual equal                  
20._____ Planning your future together
21._____ Being honest with her
22._____ Speaking well of her in public
23._____ Hugging her on a regular basis
24._____ Doing physical exercises together
25._____ Remembering anniversaries, birthdays, etc.
26._____ Laughing with her
27._____ Encouraging her to take some personal time for herself
28. _____Sending her love notes
29._____ Being sensitive to her femininity.
30. _____Picking up after yourself around the house
31._____ Inviting her out on romantic dates
32._____ Demonstrating public affection for her
33. _____Helping with the children
34._____ Being the spiritual leader of the family
35. _____Admitting when you are wrong
36. _____Expressing compassion
37._____ Helping her with housework
38._____ Being generous with the money
39._____ Letting her lean on your strength
40._____ Praying with her regularly

John.. This is great and if a husband rates good on this scale I think that there will be very few problems in the marriage .. however.. it is not how the husband rates himself on these questions but how the wife rates him on these things that counts.. It would be interesting to see the answers from the husband’s perspective and then the same answers to these questions from the wife’s perspective.. I think that this could be very eye opening in a marriage.. Just my thoughts.. I think I scored pretty high but I will have to ask my wife what she thinks..   It is her opinion on how I am as a husband that really counts though I think I score pretty high on her list too..   Blessings Galen